Tag: My Lovely Man

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You read me wrong

I have dreadful handwriting. When my lovely man met me and witnesed me filling in a form, he gasped ‘diabolical’.

I once had my handwriting assessed, and the analyser (who I suspect changed careers or ended themselves thereafter), had no comment except that I was perhaps a pyschopath.

I suspect that algorithms can’t get a firm grip on me either.

I am continually hounded by people offering the perfect gift for an aviation enthusiast close to my heart. I know not one.

I am also plagued by some crowd who claim to be best suited to improve my goatmilking skills.

I mean,  what the actual… how is this even a market?

I am further bombarded by a group sharing their retirement challenges, concerns, experiences or advice.

This is of more interest, and is something, I understand, that should be thought through.

One suggested hobby that bears serious consideration….is ‘gator wrestling’.

Yes…this is a thing. Often suggested by the long suffering wife I suspect.

Is this why Florida is popular for retirement? A big saving on gym fees.

Something to think about if my lovely man gets under my feet.

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Do you want to know what I think…?

I am seldom without an opinion. And it’s not one I often keep to myself.

Adorable hey?

I wanted to make a trip to visit some family and friends recently. Miraculously… I persuaded my lovely man to come with me. He loves his home, he loves me, he’d like to keep us together at all times, but mostly if a separation is required, he chooses to stay at home.

So… This was big.

I booked us a little BnB. It was lovely… Within 3 minutes, I established 3 things that were problematic.

I politely asked them to get their shit together already.

I reminded myself ‘nobody likes a lecture… Keep your mouth shut’.

My lovely man looked at my face and said ‘nobody likes a lecture, keep your mouth shut’.

I do love to lecture and nag… I couldn’t help myself.

‘Do you check everything is working before a new guest arrives?’, I gently enquired.

They do, we were informed, they just don’t check these things.

Shut it, my lovely man reminded me.

‘Do you think a check list would help, I asked, I can draw one up if you like.’

We are, not surprisingly, never allowed at the same place twice.

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Gangsta land

We have nine bird feeders. Yes, nine. I’m not quite sure how this has happened, but it is the state of things. In a very small yard.

My lovely man diligently fills these feeders up, and he has to do it every second day, because clearly we are hosting every bird within a 100km radius.

We go through A LOT of wild bird seed. It’s delivered by Takealot (of course), by the truckload.

We also have a beloved little rat mouse, Monty, to consider.

Sadly, in the last month, we have found two dead birds in the yard.

They were not emaciated, to be sure, but they were dead.

At least I hope they were, because I dispose of the poor little things in a zip lock bag. With a little blessing of course, but still.

I try not think about it.

Although, I do wonder, if this is going to continue, if Takealot sell little bells I can put in to the zip lock bag, so they can alert us if they awake within their zip lock bag in a panic. Maybe a mobile phone with my number programmed in.

I digress…

Why, I asked my lovely man, are these birds perishing?

We both regarded Ginger Nutless Max cat with some suspicion… But he reminded us that ‘he’s a really nice guy’ and also… If he caught Monty or any bird, he would present it to me via my pillow.

They are fighting…. My Lovely Man solemnly advised me.

Who are fighting I enquired? The birds?

Yes, he said, they are fighting each other to the death over the food. It’s obvious.

Are you saying, I clarified, they are shanking each other over the bird food?

I think so, he said, it’s a dog eat dog world out there.

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Let’s just do it

My lovely man LOVES his ice cream. Every day, after his lunch, there is always, always room for a bowl of ice cream.

The only exception to this habit, is if he has a chocolate milkshake.. Which is, mostly ice cream.

On any number of occasions, he has smacked his lips, sighed with contentment and advised me that he could quite happily live on ice cream and beer.

We all need something to live for hey?

Anyway… I bought him a box of six ‘Big Deal Mint Crunch’ ice cream on a stick. Like Magnums I guess.

He didn’t notice them for a few days, and then I asked him if he’d tried them yet and what were they like.

Well, apparently 5 star. Happiness.

So I tried one, and yes, very nice.

Some time later he said… Are these big deal ice creams more expensive than ice cream in a tub, because I don’t mind, if it’s easier, if you only get those.

I think they are more expensive I advised.

Well, he said, let’s do the maths, but I suppose we’ll have to factor it in if you are going to eat them too. How many a week do you think you’ll have?

Darling, I announced, they are 5 times more expensive per ml of ice cream.

Oh, he said, that’s not too bad then is it?

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Are you ready?

Does your lovely man have some pet frets? Mine does, bless him.

I have pet peeves, he has pet frets.

Top of mind, for him is AI.

Of all things.

Darling, he advised me, everything I read stresses that we need to be AI ready.

Are you AI ready he enquires of me.

I am not, I admit.

What is AI, he asks, I don’t feel I am in the least competent in it.

This is probably true as he refers to it, for starters, as A1.

You are retired, I reminded him, you don’t need to be AI competent, stop worrying about it.

Perhaps we should buy this book, he continued, or enroll on this six month course for a mere USD 2,000. It sounds critical.

That’s a hard no from me.

So, finally, I have come up with a cunning plan.

When you are competent with the TV remote, I tell him, I’ll teach you AI.

Every time he brings it up, we are going to have a TV Remote test. And then I’ll ask him to Google something.

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I’ll give you something to talk about

I’m a slippers and gown type of girl. It’s my favourite outfit really. I have, on a few occasions, noticed that I’m out, but still have my slippers on.

This means that, quite regularly, I have to throw my slippers in the wash. I’m quite good at hurling shoes into the washing machine. I have a friend who puts her trainers in the dishwasher. Also acceptable.

My lovely man is often in charge of emptying the washing machine and either hanging up the relevant, or putting it in the dryer. Shoes, for various reasons, are not for the dryer.

The last slipper load, somehow, slipped (did you see what I did there?) past his vigilance and some hours later I was presented with a much smaller version of my very adored sheepskin Uggs. They were dry and lovely and warm. And very little.

Luckily your feet are small he announced, these will be fine.

They are not fine, they are now baby slippers. Toddler size at best.

Well, he said, I’m waiting to read about this online, at least I give you good material.

Gotta love him. The knob.

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If it’s not too much to ask

Sunday lunch was lentils.

Because that’s how my lovely man likes it. He was very excited to have his special lentil dish on the menu.

I had a small bowl and got the side eye. How long is it going to last if other people are eating it I could see him thinking. Can’t you just have a biscuit?

He’s like that with his chocolate cake too. Not everything is to be shared.

A deep sigh of contentment on completion of his meal. Courtesy of his sister.

I think, he pondered, we could try and make this once a month.

It’s the only way I can see myself coping he ended with finality.

The only way…

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Yes, I’m completely useless

We have had a flurry of visitors. The latest being my lovely man’s sister. She loves him very much (as he deserves), and there is much chatting and reminiscing.

I am listening, with half an ear, at the chatting outside while I am, inevitably, working.

As a side note, we have been without lentils for a while. I am uncertain how we got into this sad state, but that’s how it’s been.

The favoured lentil dish is, in fact, one that their mum used to make. So, of course, the conversation took this turn.

My lovely man’s sister is a great cook. I am not.

I braced myself.

Oxtail and the lentil dish were decided on.

I see you have a hot pot she said, how does it work and I’ll use that.

As you can see, I said, it is a virgin still in it’s wrapping, and all the manuals are in that drawer. I’ll be in my office.

You have an amazing amount of gadgets for someone who doesn’t cook she commented.

I am nothing, if not prepared for visitors and the services they offer, I replied.

It was not too long before she started asking ridiculous questions like ‘where are the onions and potatoes’.

Assume nothing I said, here’s some paper and a pen, make a list.

I just need one onion she tried…

I’m in my office I reminded her.

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It’s a mouthful

My lovely man and I are each on a dental journey. Some of it through necessity, some of it through choice. Not much of it, as it turns out, fun.

It’s lengthy, laborious and largely painful. On the one hand, we are grateful we can get these things tended to, on the other hand we are somewhat regretting our choices.

And then we watch TV. American TV in particular. The Brits don’t seem to have any dentists. But… There is rarely an American actor without perfect teeth.

As my lovely man and I sit and watch, in our own various stages of trauma and healing… We discuss this a lot. Spooning ice cream and cold soup into our wounded gobs, the only diet we can manage these days.

Are Americans born with perfect teeth? Surely they can’t all endure major dental work?

Can anyone shed light on this phenomenon?

Sincerely bewildered.

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OK, I can probably sort that out

I’m no relationship expert. God knows I’ve enjoyed my share of failures…

But, I do love my lovely man, so I do try.

Every now and then I check in and ask the man..

‘Are you happy my darling? Is there anything you need, or would like changed?’

So, I asked recently and the man went into deep thought.

I waited, with some apprehension, gotta say.

Well, he said slowly… There is one thing..

My underpants are too tight, can you please get me some more?